Gaile,

I couldn't agree more. A potion of my research these days specifically
focuses on the dangers of benevolent sexism (BS). I refer to BS (pun
intended) as pink sexism and hostile as the red. My argument is that the red
is so easy to see but the pink is nearly invisible and when seen at all
seems so soft and delicate that it is easily overlooked. As can be seen in
the current US war issues, we as a species tend to only respond to the enemy
that we can see; even if they are not in fact the most dangerous one in the
field. It is easy to explain to the woman of the world that there is value
in protecting their physical person but much more difficult to explain that
the relinquishing or slight of their name deserves similar vigilance.

My opinion: our rights and identities are being eroded one compliment at a
time. 

My hope: Through the work of those of this board and others of like mind
that we will find the, glow in the dark, spray paint to finally illuminate
the true danger zones.

Kelli Vaughn-Blount

On 5/19/08 2:20 PM, "Gaile Pohlhaus" <[log in to unmask]> wrote:

> It seems to me that only when people get down to the "invisible" levels will
> all traces of sexism, racism, homophobia, etc. be eliminated.
> Gaile, Sr.
> Gaile M. Pohlhaus, PhD.
> Practical Theologian
> 
> "Set love as your criterion..."  Augustine of Hippo
> ________________________________________
> From: Feminist ethics and social theory [[log in to unmask]] On
> Behalf Of Emanuela Bianchi [[log in to unmask]]
> Sent: Monday, May 19, 2008 3:12 PM
> To: [log in to unmask]
> Subject: Re: APA Login Screen
> 
> Azzurra,
> 
> I don't think you're being pedantic in the least.  I'm in the same
> situation, but I've never objected to it, relying on the fact that
> heteronormative assumptions run so deep that it seems to me it would
> never actually occur to anyone that the names might be the same.  I've
> actually been thinking about the idea of "bastard politics" for some
> time.  And perhaps this is oddly quietist, for the ways that we get
> erased in corporate and institutional structures can of course be
> "oppressive" but also strikes me sometimes as granting us some sort of
> wiggle room - unseen by the panopticon, who knows what might take place?
>  However, I also completely agree that these assumptions have no place
> in an institution that prides itself on the task of thinking well.
> 
> Best,
> Emma
> 
> 
> --
>   Emanuela Bianchi
>   Visiting Assistant Professor
>   Department of Philosophy
>   Haverford College
> 
> 
> ----- Original message -----
> From: "Azzurra Crispino" <[log in to unmask]>
> To: [log in to unmask]
> Date: Sun, 18 May 2008 18:50:59 -0500
> Subject: APA Login Screen
> 
> Hi,
> 
> I just noticed that the default security question for the APA website
> is "what is your mother's maiden name?"  I've repeatedly requested
> that banks require a password for me and not that information, since
> (a) my mother's maiden name is my last name, (b) this is really easy
> information to find out about someone and (c) I detest the
> patriarchal and heterocentrist notion that a woman gets married,
> takes on her husband's last name, and then has children.  I know in
> the past FEAST has contacted the APA and had good success in getting
> these sorts of things changed.  Does anyone have any suggestions as
> to where I go from here, or am I just being pedantic?
> 
> Azzurra
>