Debbie, Thank you for your thought provoking question. My thoughts come from the perspective of fiercely competitive and over-achieving male. I am also the father of an 8-year-old daughter who I want to see reach her full potential (especially with regards to her interest in math and science). It is stating the obvious to say that girls are different from boys. In order to make our daughters more comfortable operating within the realms of science and technology there are (at least) two approaches... Firstly, a laudable goal is to reshape the whole mindset within our worlds science and technology leaders into something more compassionate, empathetic, and nurturing. I think that many of our daughters would feel more comfortable in an environment such as this and be more inclined to pursue science and technology. I suspect that as a female engineer, you may see this as a Herculean task. This is not to say that it's not a goal worth working towards but clearly we were not able to effect such a large change in time for your daughter and it seems unlikely that we will see a dramatic change over the next decade or two as my JrFLL daughter progresses through her education. The second approach is to teach our daughters how to stand their ground and operate/compete successfully in the current (male-centric) environment that pervades many scientific and technical disciplines. This approach may not be as emotionally satisfying to some of you but it is practical and achievable. Unless dramatic philosophical changes occur in these fields, I need to make sure that my daughter acquires the skills that allow her to produce "high-quality work" in an environment of "fierce competition" and "mutual gain" where she needs to "compete like crazy", "value others", and "add to society". The other values that you mention; "helping, sharing, discussing, compromising, teaching, process over product" already seem to come more naturally to my daughter than they do to my sons. These additional skills will give her an advantage on the field but in order to get on the field she will need to understand the rules that the boys play by. Rob Panten -----Original Message----- From: First Lego League Discussion [mailto:[log in to unmask]] On Behalf Of Debbie Brumback Sent: Saturday, December 13, 2008 5:33 PM To: [log in to unmask] Subject: [VADCFLL-L] Gracious Professionalism. Is there an equal but somewhat different motto needed for girls? Is anyone interested in discussing how girls have differed from boys (in general) within the concept of Gracious Professionalism? Is it possible that many girls and some boys are too quick to model gracious professionalism towards other more assertive, self-confident team members? I'm thinking "innovatively" here, so please be graciously professional with your thoughts and replies. Within an FLL team or any other professional group of robot designers, computer programmers, scientists, etc., gracious professionalism could easily be interpreted in such a way that the people best able to do a particular job (or best able to convince the team they are the best) should be given that job. Other team members are acting graciously when they accept their role on a team or project, based on their current skills with an understanding that the ultimate team goal is "high-quality work". A male mechanical engineering professor of MIT defined gracious professionalism. Maybe, this definition of gracious professionalism (copied below) is directed more towards the personalities of guys at MIT, than girls of similar intelligence at a liberal arts college, even girls that are interested in science. (Sorry for the sweeping generalizations.) Within the definition of Gracious Professionalism, I see "high-quality work", "fierce competition", "mutual gain", "compete like crazy", "value others", "respect", "kindness", "meaningful life", "add to society", "integrity", and "sensitivity". However, I don't see helping, sharing, discussing, compromising, teaching, process over product - characteristics that I might have specifically included if I, a female, would have defined gracious professionalism as it might relate specifically to an educational experience or internal team dynamics. So, I'm wondering, with as much gracious professionalism as possible, if there might be additional goals, beyond gracious professionalism, yet undefined, that would apply more towards girls and also boys who are a bit more flexible and easy going than perhaps the average engineering student at MIT, where this definition originated. Why do I wonder? First, I just watched my son's Lego team struggle with not always agreeing on the path taken within their team, as I'm sure all teams experience. My observation was that the strongest team personalities often exhibited more of the G.P. characteristics of focusing on "high quality work" and "fierce competition" while the more flexible members were exhibiting the G.P. characteristics of "kindness" and "value others". Second, I recently discovered that my daughter has almost certainly decided not to major in computer science after one semester in college, even after successfully taking three computer classes at community college prior to enrolling at a 4 year college. Just to share one example of things leading to this decision, she told me that when it was time to divide into project teams, she decided to "stand up for herself" and make sure she wasn't on the project team with the two boys in her class that seemed to already know everything. She said that would have made her project easy to complete but she knew she wouldn't have learned anything. If any girl could have stuck with computer science, it would have been my daughter who has sometimes described her math and cs teachers as being just like her brother (a lego league member), not to mention that she was raised by two parents, both with Mechanical Engineering degrees and many graduate level computer science classes. I understand the concerns she has and actually did not encourage her to study computer science. But, since it was her interest, I have tried to be encouraging and remind her that those guys that she thinks know more than she does actually entered the class already knowing the programming language they are using. I think my daughter will be happier as a music major, but that still leaves the world short of one more female computer programmer. Why is it so hard to keep girls interested in computer science and engineering in the United States? Maybe the answer to this mystery lies somewhere within (or outside of) the definition of gracious professionalism. Please understand that I completely support the objectives of gracious professionalism. I'm just wondering if there is an equal but somewhat opposite motto required to balance all the personalities that could exist within the engineering/robotics community. While some team members need to focus on gracious professionalism, others may need to be challenged towards something else, maybe "assertive professionalism", even with the risk of loss of the peace and harmony that comes from the more flexible team members sometimes standing firm with their ideas. Girls are entering medical school at rates equal to men and entering vet med at a higher rate. This suggest that girls are interested in science and can be successful at a very high level. The problem is keeping them interested in engineering/computer science. Every higher level of engineering - BS, MS, PhD shows a steady drop in the percentage of woman who stay in the field. Maybe the issue isn't science. Maybe, it's somewhere else, such as within the social elements of gracious professionalism. Sorry this email msg is so long. I'm figuring it was long ago deleted by most people. But, if you are still reading, I'd really appreciate your viewpoint. Gracious Professionalism - as defined in the FIRST Lego League website Dr. Woodie Flowers, FIRST National Advisor and Pappalardo Professor Emeritus of Mechanical Engineering, Massachusetts Institute of Technology, coined the term "Gracious Professionalism." Gracious Professionalism is part of the ethos of FIRST. It's a way of doing things that encourages high-quality work, emphasizes the value of others, and respects individuals and the community. With Gracious Professionalism, fierce competition and mutual gain are not separate notions. Gracious professionals learn and compete like crazy, but treat one another with respect and kindness in the process. They avoid treating anyone like losers. No chest thumping tough talk, but no sticky-sweet platitudes either. Knowledge, competition, and empathy are comfortably blended. In the long run, Gracious Professionalism is part of pursuing a meaningful life. One can add to society and enjoy the satisfaction of knowing one has acted with integrity and sensitivity. ______________________________________________________________ To UNSUBSCRIBE or CHANGE YOUR SETTINGS, please visit https://listserv.jmu.edu/archives/vadcfll-l.html and select "Join or leave the list". 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