Well, just to add:
I don't think that the criteria listed fits someone who has class fears.  It's more hidden than that.  To be more specific, people tend to treat you the same as them, because, especially if you appear Caucasian, you look like them.  So there's never a feeling of being initially over looked or ignored (well, aside from the whole "woman" thing). 

It's more a deep seated fear like "what if they hear the way I talk; what if I give an anecdote in class that shows how white trash I am/ my family is/ my background is; what if they won't see me as credible when they find out I didn't have the opportunity to have as "cushy" of an education and education experience as they did since I had to take care of myself and work my way through that commuter school?"....

Of course, once people find out, it's not uncommon for all of these fears to be actualized.  So then you end up trying really hard to either act like them, really hard to "show your ass" in order to prove you're not like them, or a really mentally confusing combination of both.   I guess it would be like a sort of double consciousness.  And "passing" is always an issue. 

I'm sure there's a lot more to be said on the topic, but this is what my experience has been and I hope that it can help expand the idea.

Shay

On Tue, Jun 10, 2008 at 11:36 AM, Sophia Wong <[log in to unmask]> wrote:
Dear FEASTies,

Shay raises an important point about her experiences of class
difference.  A friend of mine has suggested that I should change the
title of the piece to "How can I mentor someone who ISN'T like me"
rather than "who doesn't LOOK LIKE me" because many differences,
including class, are masked by one's appearance.  People who look the
same may in fact be very different inside.  This also includes
differences in religious beliefs and political affiliations, as Kate
Norlock pointed out to me.

Would anyone like to chime in with an anecdote illustrating the
feeling of un-relatability or the fear of being discovered/co-opted
into elitism that Shay describes below?

Sophia

Sophia Wong, Ph.D.
Assistant Professor
Department of Philosophy
Long Island University, Brooklyn Campus
www.sophiawong.info

On Mon, Jun 9, 2008 at 6:37 PM, Shay Welch <[log in to unmask]> wrote:
> I do think that somewhere someone should address the difficulties that come
> from class/cultural difference.  While I do not go nearly as far as some
> others, I do believe that class difference makes for nearly insurmountable
> obstacles (at least in my mind).  There is a similar, though unique, feeling
> of un-relatability that comes from knowing that they "(secretly) know what
> you really are (secretly)" and a fear of being discovered or even co-opted
> into the elitism.
> Shay
>
> On Mon, Jun 9, 2008 at 1:52 PM, Sophia Wong <[log in to unmask]> wrote:
>>
>> Dear FEASTers,
>>
>> Many thanks to those who wrote encouraging me to post my short piece,
>> "How can I mentor someone who doesn't look like me?" on my website,
>> and to revise and expand it for publication.  I have posted the draft
>> on my website here where anyone may link to it or print it out for
>> colleagues who might find it useful:
>> http://sophiawong.info/mentoring-for-diversity/
>>
>> If anyone has related anecdotes or similar tips on mentoring to share,
>> I would be delighted to include them in the expanded version of this
>> piece.
>>
>> Best wishes,
>> Sophia
>>
>> Sophia Isako Wong, Ph.D.
>> Assistant Professor
>> Department of Philosophy
>> Long Island University, Brooklyn Campus
>> www.sophiawong.info
>
>