I'm a tiny bit confused by the diagram, Gregg.

Is it meant to be 3D, with 8 sections (autonomous =back, and
dependent=front) , and the freedom axis neutral with regard to relational
value?
And also, the two top right sections (dominant/affiliative/autonomous(back)
vs dominant/affiliative/dependent(front)) equally high relational value?

Or is the freedom axis supposed to be some mix of the power and love
dimensions?

Otherwise, in general, it does make some distance describing the social
emotions. I wonder how it would apply to why men shouldn't be "nice guys" .

... And while I'm on that subject, I would like to ask something I've been
struggling with:

I get why being nice can be understood as fake and passive aggressive, and
why some might be justified in regarding a nice guy as actually not that
nice. But in my experience, I was simply raised, after being adopted, to
put others first, by an abusive step mother (you might imagine where that
puts me today) . I was Harry Potter.
So when I hit my 20's and found hostility from female coworkers, I was
totally confused. This happened in more than one workplace, where a certain
alpha female would project and demonize me, without ever directly
explaining her problem.

Even today, in my 30's, I haven't resolved the ethics of it. I've simply
become more direct, and very careful communicator, constantly walking on
eggshells. And I've come to expect people (especially women) to project
things on me that aren't true, like they're afraid of me because I'm
honest, and they're trying to deny my honesty.



On Sat, Jul 27, 2019, 8:54 AM Henriques, Gregg - henriqgx <[log in to unmask]>
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>   I posted a blog today on the nature and origin of gender differences and
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