I feel like Waldemar has always let me "be" as I naturally am. He offers comments that reveal he has observed me carefully and with consideration. He is consistently, habitually helpful in his words. He appears to move from a core integrity. I reject him also ;) -Chance On Thu, Jun 4, 2020 at 10:13 AM Michael Mascolo <[log in to unmask]> wrote: > Hi All: > > Jeez. In my last email, I meant to open with, “I was reflecting on > Waldemar’s reflections” — not I was “rejecting on” them. > > Please don’t reject on me for my error. > > M. > > > *Michael F. Mascolo, Ph.D.* > Academic Director, Compass Program > Professor, Department of Psychology > Merrimack College, North Andover, MA 01845 > 978.837.3503 (office) > 978.979.8745 (cell) > > Political Conversations Study: *www.CreatingCommonGround.org > <https://urldefense.proofpoint.com/v2/url?u=http-3A__www.creatingcommonground.org_&d=DwMFaQ&c=eLbWYnpnzycBCgmb7vCI4uqNEB9RSjOdn_5nBEmmeq0&r=HPo1IXYDhKClogP-UOpybo6Cfxxz-jIYBgjO2gOz4-A&m=pQKVtYnz5c9w-Z9nSe7wG-0Vk6vfaENnSoWSF1M62hs&s=D6koxxN9P8p7ZOhBUo-fHxCXpL0UF0_3BdZoL35z4VE&e=>* > Blog: Values Matter > <https://urldefense.proofpoint.com/v2/url?u=https-3A__www.psychologytoday.com_us_blog_values-2Dmatter&d=DwMFaQ&c=eLbWYnpnzycBCgmb7vCI4uqNEB9RSjOdn_5nBEmmeq0&r=HPo1IXYDhKClogP-UOpybo6Cfxxz-jIYBgjO2gOz4-A&m=pQKVtYnz5c9w-Z9nSe7wG-0Vk6vfaENnSoWSF1M62hs&s=6U9OKsFU1GwOY_c1anYyyX4Bs4lGA4-2UpiXPoxgGGc&e=> > Journal: Pedagogy and the Human Sciences > <https://urldefense.proofpoint.com/v2/url?u=http-3A__scholarworks.merrimack.edu_phs_&d=DwMFaQ&c=eLbWYnpnzycBCgmb7vCI4uqNEB9RSjOdn_5nBEmmeq0&r=HPo1IXYDhKClogP-UOpybo6Cfxxz-jIYBgjO2gOz4-A&m=pQKVtYnz5c9w-Z9nSe7wG-0Vk6vfaENnSoWSF1M62hs&s=zcIEumuXlsPvT_tP5wYAktBpfRZPHc0fHAdO4nwWLgo&e=> > Coaching and Author Website: www.michaelmascolo.com > <https://urldefense.proofpoint.com/v2/url?u=http-3A__www.michaelmascolo.com_&d=DwMFaQ&c=eLbWYnpnzycBCgmb7vCI4uqNEB9RSjOdn_5nBEmmeq0&r=HPo1IXYDhKClogP-UOpybo6Cfxxz-jIYBgjO2gOz4-A&m=pQKVtYnz5c9w-Z9nSe7wG-0Vk6vfaENnSoWSF1M62hs&s=5qprjYuzY-ecXw3W3rszrv33kEXCxbA1CBa6YZXnfa8&e=> > Academia Home Page: https://urldefense.proofpoint.com/v2/url?u=http-3A__merrimack.academia.edu_MichaelMascolo&d=DwIFaQ&c=eLbWYnpnzycBCgmb7vCI4uqNEB9RSjOdn_5nBEmmeq0&r=HPo1IXYDhKClogP-UOpybo6Cfxxz-jIYBgjO2gOz4-A&m=ND-cknhr1R654WUiUFywLLcvwW0nz5KEbsoRG5fTCCs&s=YpnkB9D6QKRtdL2MEutSFS7fTCTN3E25SGh21wY_mpQ&e= > <https://urldefense.proofpoint.com/v2/url?u=http-3A__merrimack.academia.edu_MichaelMascolo&d=DwMFaQ&c=eLbWYnpnzycBCgmb7vCI4uqNEB9RSjOdn_5nBEmmeq0&r=HPo1IXYDhKClogP-UOpybo6Cfxxz-jIYBgjO2gOz4-A&m=pQKVtYnz5c9w-Z9nSe7wG-0Vk6vfaENnSoWSF1M62hs&s=FT0flWJaY2l24v47hJw1ih3KYy7NNwIKs4_vx4QewFs&e=> > > "*Things move, persons act.*" -- Kenneth Burke > "*If it's not worth doing, it's not worth doing well*." -- Donald Hebb > > On Jun 3, 2020, at 4:48 PM, Waldemar Schmidt <[log in to unmask] > <[log in to unmask]>> wrote: > > Dear Friends: > > I want to share something with you - perhaps, it will prove helpful beyond > our experimental pod. > Something which arose from our CALM-MO workshop yesterday. > > Before I do so, it is appropriate to again thank KC, Charles, and Paulihna > for their work and presentation - as well to Gregg for organizing the Zoom. > I also want to thank Mike Mascolo for what he shared with us visually on > that day (more on that below). > The Zoom and Mike’s graphic are, for me, both remarkable and > conceptually-revealing. > > This has to do with my experiences with CALM-MO. > I have found it very helpful and, as I mentioned before, see the CALM part > as the *tactics* available in applying the *strategy* - ie, metacognitive > observation (including meta-affect and meta-bodily). > > Alas, some days I am more successful than others. > But overall, I more frequently recognize when I need to utilize CALM-MO on > myself. > However, I am aware that “something else” was also going on - something > which has been to me ineffable but clearly active. > From time-to-time, looking back on an incidence when I used CALM-MO, I > have wondered “*what just happened*?” > > The workshop was personally revealing for me - and has helped to answer > that question. > I especially was challenged by KC’s portion. > The others were also helpful, but KC explored an area which is pretty much > unexperienced by me. > I seem to do OK with the cognitive and affective part of applying CALM-MO. > That is, if I am sufficiently attentive, I recognize: “*OK, time for > CALM-MO before I go off the rails*!” > About half-way through the workshop I had an insight: “*hey, I often find > myself applying CALM-MO but I am not fully aware of why it was triggered* > .” > > Hmm - must be triggered unconsciously, huh - how come I didn’t realize > that before? > Not a major paradigm shifting thought - except for me, of course. > > As a result of the workshop, I realized there was another way in which I > was, unconsciously, using CALM-MO: > > > - #1: I am using CALM-MO to calibrate my bodily, emotional, and > cognitive *response. * In other words, in response to my thoughts, > my feelings, my body response I am using CALM-MO to modulate my planned > *response*. > - #2: I am using CALM-MO to measure *my reaction to the situation* > in which I find myself. It occurs rapidly (ie, as a result of thinking > fast). > > > In this way, #2 is different from #1 because #1 is occurring by thinking > slow. > #1 is a conscious, cognitive effort whilst #2 is a subconscious effort. > > If you will, I realized I was using CALM-MO as an *existential monitor* > in #2. > I was evaluating what the situation in which I found myself was being > sensed & perceived by myself - but, not necessarily as a consciously > analysis of that situation. > > That’s where Mike’s graphic comes in. > > <D9F711E2-BF49-41CC-808C-E91E73166AB7_1_105_c.jpeg> > > Apprehending the two ways in which I am using CALM-MO involves the > conscious mind, I wondered how this is operating in the subconscious mind. > That’s Mike’s graphic (which he has added to since the workshop). > > And, as a result, I perceived what was going on with the mysterious method > #2: > > > - I was, subconsciously sensing and perceiving input from Reflection, > Emotion, and/or Bodily to measure status in the 4 arenas of CALM. > - If there was concordance in all areas, I did not receive the > message “time to employ CALM-MO in this current situation.” > - But, if one or more of the arenas was discordant, then I did > receive the message “time to employ CALM-MO in this current situation.” > > > For example: > > > - If the situation involved a thought, was it something which I was > comfortable accepting lovingly? If not, then the stimulus to apply CALM-MO > was triggered. > - If the emotion being “transmitted” in the situation was something > with which I really couldn’t accept lovingly, then the stimulus to employ > CALM-MO was triggered. > > > And, most interestingly (to my Western mind) was the role of Bodily > response to the situation in which I found myself. > Clearly, there were times I experienced when cognitively and affectively > everything seemed OK, but something - ie, Bodily response - detected a > reason to be careful and the need to use CALM-MO. > That explained those times when I found myself using CALM-MO to modulate > the situation but did not remember having experienced cognitively or > affectively the need to so. > > Clearly, if the 12 arenas on the chart are “green” then my experiential > monitor was not alarmed by what was transpiring. > But, if there was a yellow square, and especially a red one (measures of > how discordant I perceived the situation) then it was time for CALM-MO > adaptations on my part. > The more squares which were “not green” resulted in a strong impulse to > apply CALM-MO. > Obviously, this is modulated by my worldview and ethical stance/intention > - so, the outcome is unique to each person. > > This suggests, to me, that it is important to integrate the *MO strategy* > into my repertoire of characteristic adaptations both in terms of how I > might act and how the situation is “acting.” > In other words, to me, CALM-MO needs to be “a way of life” rather than a > series of techniques which might be applicable “if I wanted to do so.” > > So, thanks, KC, Paulihna, and Charles for your help. > Thanks, Mike, for helping me to “see.” > I hope your presentations will be recorded so that they may be accessed > via the appropriate website. > > Best regards, and thanks for “listening,” > > Waldemar > > *Waldemar A Schmidt, PhD, MD* > (Perseveret et Percipiunt) > 503.631.8044 > > *Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value. 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