Michael: I think you might be on to something with AL. I suspect that, at some level, the individuals knows it is AL and not RL (real like). That creates, I think, some cognitive dissonance within the person. Waldemar A Schmidt, PhD, MD (Perseveret et Percipiunt) 503.631.8044 Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value. (A Einstein) We are in search of a coherent ontology & epistemology to revitalize the human soul and spirit in the 21st Century. (G Henriques; The Theory of Knowledge Society)) > On Nov 13, 2021, at 3:48 PM, michael kazanjian <[log in to unmask]> wrote: > > CAUTION: This email originated from outside of JMU. Do not click links or open attachments unless you recognize the sender and know the content is safe. > Alexis Kenny: > > Recently I conversed about that very thing with a psychologist. Social media and virtual activities, gradually replacing what I would call the "immedia" or F2F, P2P interaction, reportedly does damage to many people, especially teens. They want acceptance, friends, likes via media, which they cannot often find in immediate. Sherry Turkle of MIT makes the point somewhat in her Reclaiming Conversation, as do I in Unified Philosophy 3rd edition. Society is slowly substituting mediate "community" for immedia and true community. I call it AL, or artificial liking, maybe AC or artificial community. > > Michael M. Kazanjian > > On Saturday, November 13, 2021, 05:28:58 PM CST, Alexis Kenny <[log in to unmask]> wrote: > > > CAUTION: This email originated from outside of JMU. Do not click links or open attachments unless you recognize the sender and know the content is safe. > Gregg, > > This is a great piece! Thanks for sharing! > > In reading the last paragraph of your blog, I wondered...what happens when people don't look for being known and valued by the "right" people? For example, if teens are preoccupied with broad social acceptance (likely via a virtual / nebulous community (clearly making an assumption here)), is their pursuit of being known and valued doomed from the get-go? > > As a follow-up question...even if these teens thought they were known and valued by this group (through likes, followers, etc.) would this sense of acceptance satisfy their core needs at any meaningful, sustainable level? > > Would welcome your (or anyone else's) responses! > > Thanks for the food for thought, > > Ali > > El vie, 12 de nov. de 2021 a la(s) 11:44, Henriques, Gregg - henriqgx ([log in to unmask] <mailto:[log in to unmask]>) escribió: > Hi Folks, > > I put this up today. FWIW, I have found that the difference between social influence and relational value is likely one of the keys to effecting a wise cultural shift. 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