Thanks, Michael. You have an enormous amount of wisdom to share regarding the nature of relationships and fostering deep and helpful guidance toward value based living.

 

G

 

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Hi All:

 

All this talk about parenting has forced me to chip in with this:

 

Here is a book:

 

8 Keys to Old School Parenting for Modern Day Families.

 

I wrote this book.  It is, I think, a good book.  I wrote it to challenge parents who might have a more “child-centered” or “permissive” or “helicopter” bent to question their assumptions about the importance of maintaining high standards  in parenting. I chose the title for that purpose.

 

However, it is the worst title in the history of humankind.  People who bought the book thought it was a book that justified slapping your kid behind the head type of parenting. 

 

Instead, it’s about holding children to high standards (the old school) and engaging them in conflict management interactions in order to foster their development (the modern part).

 

Anyway, I felt left out of the discussion so I decided to add this so I could hear my own voice… :-)

 

M.

  

 

 

 

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On Dec 9, 2021, at 11:09 AM, michael kazanjian <[log in to unmask]> wrote:

 

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Tyler,

 

Michael, here.  I forgot to mention where I grew  up would have been ideal even for those winning the Nobel, Pulitzer, or eventually being members of the president's Cabinet. Yes, many would argue that's a stretch.  No it's not. I have an MA and have taught college philosophy. The kids with whom I was lucky to grow up became productive citizens. I am proud to say I am from CHA.  I do not think of my place as "inner city,"   but just Chicago. 

 

I would be honored to autograph a hard copy. But if you want a kindle, that's beyond my technological savvy.  I have no idea how to autograph one. But here is the link to my book and the publisher.

 

 

I can definitely imagine, and would be honored, to give seminars on Person-Person interface, etc.  This would include subinterfaces: parenting, police (profiling, Miranda, etc.), medicine, law, teaching, cybernetics/government, corporations, etc.

 

Michael

 

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It’s Tyler, Michael. Sounds like a better outcome than most privileged environments. Happy to reimburse you for an autographed copy, though Kindle would be a more judicious use of space.

 

Kant vs. Popper and saving institutional injustice would make a great prison seminar, maybe lifers. I’m guessing beyond the reach of current curricului

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James Carpenter:

 

My book, especially chapter 7, philosophically reflects my wonderful experiences at CHA or Chicago Public Housing.  Chapter 7 raises my experiences there, to a higher degree of generality,  just as, for examples, Rawls notes his Theory of Justice raises to a higher degree of abstraction/generality, the thought of Kant??  I only wish every family, every kid, indeed every intellectual, scholar and philosopher grew up where I was lucky to grow up.  When we moved out, it was a fantastic community of Puerto Ricans, Mexicans, Italians, Armenians, Greeks, Blacks, Irish, Polish, Germans, Jews, etc.

 

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James Carpenter:

 

Agreed. Volunteering to work with inner city kids can be a major philosophical issue. Having grown up in the inner city, Chicago Public Housing, I can say that the CPH place where I was VERY fortunate to grow up, was a dream utopia for families, kids, anyone. A volunteer would have found that place where I grew up. to be the ideal place for volunteering.  There are, admittedly inner cities, and inner cities. Nothing is monolithic. 

 

Michael M. Kazanjian

 

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James Tyler Carpenter:

 

I am sure that people learn from many experiences. One point or question about marriage, I have heard, is whether Catholic priest, being unmarried, have the right to counsel couples who are either married, or wish to marry.  That question intrigues me. So, theoretically, no Catholic priest maybe ought counsel a couple who are dating, engaged, married???   Hmmm. 

 

Incidentally, in my childhood, I was frequently taken to Armenian churches. The priests are generally married, but within the hierarchy, the higher ones are not married. I have heard that the parish priest must be married to be a priest. I am not a member of the Armenian Orthodox church, so cannot speak for the current situation. 

 

Michael M. Kazanjian 

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Dear Greg Thomas:

 

Negative. I am not a parent.  I think I know what you will say.  Only parents may talk about parenthood??   Sounds like Maslow, I think.  Warning about overspecialization, he said he rejected the view that carpenters may touch only wood and only carpenters may touch wood.   

 

Michael

 

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Dear Michael Kazanjian:

 

Are you a parent?

 

Greg

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Ken Barish:

 

Thanks for the kind comments. As I have noted to Ali in a previous email, my book's (Unified Philosophy 3rd  edoton) chapter 1 presents a general theory of metaphysics (mereology). It then applies this in chapter 7 for authority, management, freedom, showing a general theory of sociology, psychology, involving person1-person2  interface.  Within that interface are subinterfces including those for parenting, government/cybernetics, management as narrowly defined, teaching, religion, testing, and so on. Medical, legal, and other professional interfaces come into play.

 

Best,

 

Michael M. Kazanjian 

 

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Michael,

 

This is an interesting perspective on parenting.  I will have to look into it and think about it.

 

Ken



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Ali, Ken, and All:

 

Chapter 7 of my book, Unified Philosophy: Interdisciplinary Metaphysics, Ethics, and Liberal Arts, 3rd edition, Cognella,  is not specifically on parenting.  However, it is on management, authority, communications, freedom, applicable to government/cybernetics, parenting, pedagogy, testing, leadership, and communications:  person to person relations. 

 

Taxonomically, it involves:

       mere communications  or authority  (dictatorship, bad parenting)   parent never listens.   parent never spending time with child. 

       community based communications,    good parenting where the parent listens. 

       no communications,  only communications and no listening      bad parenting

      only community, no communications.        mere spending time with the child, no listening.

 

Best,

 

Michael M. Kazanjian

 

 

 

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Ali,

 

I have several additional parenting books to recommend.

 

The Heart of Parenting by John Gottman, Ph.D. is a classic parenting book that presents Gottman's research on emotion coaching.

 

Michelle Borba, Ed.D. has written two recent books: Unselfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World  and Thrivers: The Surprising Reasons Why Some Kids Struggle and Others Shine.

 

I would also like to add my own parenting book to the list: Pride and Joy: A Guide to Understanding Your Child’s Emotions and Solving Family Problems.

 

Ken Barish



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All,

 

The APA DIV43 (The Society for Couple and Family Psychology) listserv recently and (informally) generated a list of highly recommended parenting books. I thought I would share here:

 

    • And Baby Makes Three: The Six-Step Plan for Preserving Marital Intimacy and Rekindling Romance After Baby Arrives by John Gottman, PhD & Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD
    • Between Parent and Child by Haim G. Ginott, PhD 
    • Brain-Based Parenting: The Neuroscience of Caregiving for Healthy Attachment by Daniel A. Hughes and Jonathan Baylin 
    • Now Say This: The Right Words to Solve Every Parenting Dilemma by Heather Turgeon, MFT & Julie Wright, MFT
    • Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting by Laura Markham, PhD
    • Parenting from the Inside Out by Daniel J. Siegel, MD
    • Parenting the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety by John Duffy, PhD
    • Positive Discipline by Jane Nelsen, EdD
    • Raising a Secure Child by Kent Hoffman, Glenn Cooper, and Bert Powell
    • The Attachment Connection: Parenting a Secure and Confident Child Using the Science of Attachment Theory by Ruth P. Newton, PhD and Allan Schore, PhD
    • The Boy Who Was Raised By A Dog by Bruce D. Perry, MD, PhD, & Maia Szalavitz The Price of Privilege by Madeline Levine, PhD
    • The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed by Jessica Lahey
    • The Good Enough Child: How to Have an Imperfect Family and Be Perfectly Satisfied by Brad E. Sachs, PhD
    • The Good Enough Teen: Raising Adolescents with Love and Acceptance by Brad E. Sachs, PhD
    • The Kindness Advantage: Cultivating Compassionate and Connected Children by Dale Atkins, PhD and Amanda Salzhauer, MSW
    • 1-2-3 Magic: 3-Step Discipline for Calm, Effective, and Happy Parenting by Thomas W. Phalen, PhD

 

If folks want to backchannel me (or via the listserv) with more recommendations, that would be lovely! 

 

Warmly,

 

Ali

 

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