I thought I would send in two metaphors I use with clients. It keeps 
things simple but they seem to work well. The first was created by Sir 
Mason Durie, A NZ Maori, orignially meant for use in a health arena. It 
is called Te Whare Tapa Wha or the four walls of a house. Instead of a 
hierarchy there are four interconnected walls that from a strong 
resilient structure

1    Tinana - The body

2    Hinengaro - The mind

3    Whanau - Family - social - relationships

4    Wairua  - Spirit

Other people have noted that a house must sit in the land - environment 
- context

I have added two more things. A traditional Maori meeting house is built 
to be like the body of an ancestor - usually the original ancestor for 
the tribe and the inside is filled with carvings of the ancestors. So to 
go into the house is to go into the past. We always carry the past with 
us, both the wonders of the culture that support and sustain and the 
trauma and hurt. The second is that the carving on the top of the roof 
at the front is called a tekoteko, usually a guardian warrior alert in 
case there are any threats to the people. This is like mindfulness and 
impacts on how well the four walls can function.

The second is my idea of a horse and coach.

The horses are the emotions

The driver is thinking

The coach is the body

The passenger is beliefs and values.

Horses are extremely powerful and provide the motive power for the horse 
and coach - No emotion and you don't go anywhere. If they see something 
like a snake on the road, they can bolt ...  - fight/flight/freeze. If 
you let the horses go where they want, you could end up anywhere. Horses 
are tied to the coach.

The driver must control the horses. Speed up/slow down, care for the 
horses, feed them, give them rest. well controlled horses get to do what 
they like doing - running just in a way the supports the whole horse and 
coach. The driver must check out the road ahead for hazards etc, i.e. be 
anticipatory. The driver has a map supplied by the passenger. It ,may be 
a good map that clearly shows the way, or it might be a faulty map that 
sees the horse and coach going back to a place that is not that helpful. 
The driver must obey the rules of the road and manage other horses and 
coaches on the road. the driver must maintain alertness t notice any 
changes or other relevant information about the horse, coach and the 
environment and respond to it in a timely fashion. AN addiction is like 
a short cut that looks great until you get round the bends and the road 
becomes bumpy and difficult and does not end where you want. The driver 
needs to stop and talk to other drivers about the road ahead

The driver must tend to the coach, repair and maintain it and stay on 
the seat.

The passenger gets to say where the driver should take the horse and 
coach. Whereas the driver looks forward to where the coach is headed, 
the passenger looks to the back. and notices the patterns that arise. If 
the driver is alert they will initiate a conversation with the passenger 
about the intended destination. The driver could alert the passenger to 
delays, difficulties, alternative places to go etc. The passenger's 
luggage is tied on top. If there is too much luggage or it is insecurely 
tied, it may fall off and break.

If two horses and coaches choose to travel in convoy one set of horses 
could spook the other. The drivers might disagree. They may want to go 
to other destinations etc.

-- 
Victor MacGill PhD
https://urldefense.proofpoint.com/v2/url?u=http-3A__www.victormacgill.com&d=DwIDaQ&c=eLbWYnpnzycBCgmb7vCI4uqNEB9RSjOdn_5nBEmmeq0&r=HPo1IXYDhKClogP-UOpybo6Cfxxz-jIYBgjO2gOz4-A&m=XmMJv6MiGUmMqQ3Nytr7YiX7-Q1w9lltNxbXnDJHM_A&s=G_iLNIQaoKwMIrsQCq9WMEsfv1KhhvXuuh24t71eKH0&e= 
Author of When the Dragon Stirs: Healing our Wounded lives through Fairy Stories, Myths and Legends
and Gonna Lay Down my Sword and Shield: A complexity perspective on human evolution from a Violent Past to a Compassionate Future

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