I feel like Waldemar has always let me "be" as I naturally am.  He offers
comments that reveal he has observed me carefully and with consideration.
He is consistently, habitually helpful in his words.  He appears to move
from a core integrity.

I reject him also ;)

-Chance

On Thu, Jun 4, 2020 at 10:13 AM Michael Mascolo <[log in to unmask]>
wrote:

> Hi All:
>
> Jeez. In my last email, I meant to open with, “I was reflecting on
> Waldemar’s reflections” — not I was “rejecting on” them.
>
> Please don’t reject on me for my error.
>
> M.
>
>
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> On Jun 3, 2020, at 4:48 PM, Waldemar Schmidt <[log in to unmask]
> <[log in to unmask]>> wrote:
>
> Dear Friends:
>
> I want to share something with you - perhaps, it will prove helpful beyond
> our experimental pod.
> Something  which arose from our CALM-MO workshop yesterday.
>
> Before I do so, it is appropriate to again thank KC, Charles, and Paulihna
> for their work and presentation - as well to Gregg for organizing the Zoom.
> I also want to thank Mike Mascolo for what he shared with us visually on
> that day (more on that below).
> The Zoom and Mike’s graphic are, for me, both remarkable and
> conceptually-revealing.
>
> This has to do with my experiences with CALM-MO.
> I have found it very helpful and, as I mentioned before, see the CALM part
> as the *tactics* available in applying the *strategy* - ie, metacognitive
> observation (including meta-affect and meta-bodily).
>
> Alas, some days I am more successful than others.
> But overall, I more frequently recognize when I need to utilize CALM-MO on
> myself.
> However, I am aware that “something else” was also going on - something
> which has been to me ineffable but clearly active.
> From time-to-time, looking back on an incidence when I used CALM-MO, I
> have wondered “*what just happened*?”
>
> The workshop was personally revealing for me - and has helped to answer
> that question.
> I especially was challenged by KC’s portion.
> The others were also helpful, but KC explored an area which is pretty much
> unexperienced by me.
> I seem to do OK with the cognitive and affective part of applying CALM-MO.
> That is, if I am sufficiently attentive, I recognize: “*OK, time for
> CALM-MO before I go off the rails*!”
> About half-way through the workshop I had an insight: “*hey, I often find
> myself applying CALM-MO but I am not fully aware of why it was triggered*
> .”
>
> Hmm - must be triggered unconsciously, huh - how come I didn’t realize
> that before?
> Not a major paradigm shifting thought - except for me, of course.
>
> As a result of the workshop, I realized there was another way in which I
> was, unconsciously, using CALM-MO:
>
>
>    - #1: I am using CALM-MO to calibrate my bodily, emotional, and
>       cognitive *response. * In other words, in response to my thoughts,
>       my feelings, my body response I am using CALM-MO to modulate my planned
>       *response*.
>       - #2: I am using CALM-MO to measure *my reaction to the situation*
>       in which I find myself.  It occurs rapidly (ie, as a result of thinking
>       fast).
>
>
> In this way, #2 is different from #1 because #1 is occurring by thinking
> slow.
> #1 is a conscious, cognitive effort whilst #2 is a subconscious effort.
>
> If you will, I realized I was using CALM-MO as an *existential monitor*
> in #2.
> I was evaluating what the situation in which I found myself was being
> sensed & perceived by myself - but, not necessarily as a consciously
> analysis of that situation.
>
> That’s where Mike’s graphic comes in.
>
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>
> Apprehending the two ways in which I am using CALM-MO involves the
> conscious mind, I wondered how this is operating in the subconscious mind.
> That’s Mike’s graphic (which he has added to since the workshop).
>
> And, as a result, I perceived what was going on with the mysterious method
> #2:
>
>
>    - I was, subconsciously sensing and perceiving input from Reflection,
>       Emotion, and/or Bodily to measure status in the 4 arenas of CALM.
>       - If there was concordance in all areas, I did not receive the
>       message “time to employ CALM-MO in this current situation.”
>       - But, if one or more of the arenas was discordant, then I did
>       receive the message “time to employ CALM-MO in this current situation.”
>
>
> For example:
>
>
>    - If the situation involved a thought, was it something which I was
>       comfortable accepting lovingly?  If not, then the stimulus to apply CALM-MO
>       was triggered.
>       - If the emotion being “transmitted” in the situation was something
>       with which I really couldn’t accept lovingly, then the stimulus to employ
>       CALM-MO was triggered.
>
>
> And, most interestingly (to my Western mind) was the role of Bodily
> response to the situation in which I found myself.
> Clearly, there were times I experienced when cognitively and affectively
> everything seemed OK, but something - ie, Bodily response - detected a
> reason to be careful and the need to use CALM-MO.
> That explained those times when I found myself using CALM-MO to modulate
> the situation but did not remember having experienced cognitively or
> affectively the need to so.
>
> Clearly, if the 12 arenas on the chart are “green” then my experiential
> monitor was not alarmed by what was transpiring.
> But, if there was a yellow square, and especially a red one (measures of
> how discordant I perceived the situation) then it was time for CALM-MO
> adaptations on my part.
> The more squares which were “not green” resulted in a strong impulse to
> apply CALM-MO.
> Obviously, this is modulated by my worldview and ethical stance/intention
> - so, the outcome is unique to each person.
>
> This suggests, to me, that it is important to integrate the *MO strategy*
> into my repertoire of characteristic adaptations both in terms of how I
> might act and how the situation is “acting.”
> In other words, to me, CALM-MO needs to be “a way of life” rather than a
> series of techniques which might be applicable “if I wanted to do so.”
>
> So, thanks, KC, Paulihna, and Charles for your help.
> Thanks, Mike, for helping me to “see.”
> I hope your presentations will be recorded so that they may be accessed
> via the appropriate website.
>
> Best regards, and thanks for “listening,”
>
> Waldemar
>
> *Waldemar A Schmidt, PhD, MD*
> (Perseveret et Percipiunt)
> 503.631.8044
>
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