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Sender: First Lego League in Virginia and DC <[log in to unmask]>
Date: Mon, 8 Oct 2012 13:30:57 -0400
Reply-To: Ralph Guilder <[log in to unmask]>
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I am a rookie coach DIV 1 and have no sponsoring org. I have independent funding. My team captains, who I empower to make team decisions, have counseled (no punitive stuff and i was there with an assistant coach) an 11 yo several times about behavior , distractions , etc. The child doesn't show up to meetings and throws stuff in my house. He joined the team very late compared to the other members. 

( to be honest I don't do we'll with confrontation )

They took it upon themselves to remove him from the team yesterday without my knowledge.  The boys parents are very angry at me and I am trying to undo what has been done or at least move forward. 

As a parent I am very sad this happened and found out at the same time his mom did.  I was going to talk to the parents about this but the captains beat me to it in a way I did not expect. 

Has any coach had this situation and how did you handle it?  I really am heartbroken and struggling with this. I am a Scout Leader and have been a Coach in sports and have never had a situation like this. 

I know the boys heart is broken and as a parent I sympathize with them.


Coach Guilder

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